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At the moment YouTube is doing a campaign called #DearMe in celebration of International Women’s Day where you give advice to your younger self. I’m too much of a wuss to make videos of myself so I thought I’d do a blog post instead.

#DearMe: Things will get better

Dear Me – 15 years ago

Yes, you’re the weird girl that lots of people like, but some people don’t. Don’t worry about them, they’re not going to matter. Your friends will change and no, she isn’t one of them any more no matter how much she tried to win back your friendship. People will like you for who you are and want to be around you because you encourage them to be the best version of themselves they can. That doesn’t mean you can’t sit on the internet all day or that you can’t stay at home for the entire school holidays and forget where you took off your shoes at the start of them. You don’t need to go out and do everything, there’s nothing wrong with staying home and doing what you want to do.

Don’t feel bad for sleeping in Modern History because you’ll drop that class anyway and wonder how a teacher can make learning history so boring!

Mostly, don’t be sad. Don’t get so angry because no one sees that you’re sad and yes, they probably would care if you weren’t in the world any more.

Dear Me – 10 years ago

That boy isn’t right for you. No matter what you do or try, he isn’t going to change. No matter how much you want to help him. He just won’t. I’m not sure I can emphasise this enough, when the alarm bells start ringing in your head, listen to them, because they’re right. He’s going to cost so much of your energy, your money, your time and he will take a lot of who you are until you’re not sure if there is any of you left. Read up on emotional abuse and realise that not all abuse in relationships is physical. People can be manipulative and emotionally abusive too.

Dear Me – 5 years ago

Refer to the above. You haven’t learnt your lesson yet, but you will. You will see that things can get better. You don’t have to live the way you do and you deserve more. You can be around people that are interested in you for you. People that will encourage you to work out what you want to do and do them.. You might not have worked those things out yet, but that is ok too.

Just remember, you make things get better! It all starts with you.

8 thoughts to “#DearMe”

  1. Writing a blog post about this is such a cool idea, and it’s great to be able to reflect on yourself and your past. You never know when your own advice might make sense to you again at some stage and as a reminder of the roads you have walked. <3

  2. It was a very cool idea. I think I cast more of a broad net with mine, but I like the direction you went with it too. :) It’s good to remind yourself not to jump out of the boat.

  3. This is such a great idea and a wonderful way to reflect and look back on your journey and what you’ve learned! I love the things you would’ve said to yourself, especially to yourself 15 years ago as it’s very similar to the things I would want to say to a younger me. :) Great post!

  4. That’s a great blog post! I really don’t know what I would tell my younger self as I feel like I’m still trying to figure this life thing out. Hopefully by the time I’m 35 I will have some sort of direction in my life.

  5. Great post! It’s always nice to translate another campaign from a different platform :)

    Lovely way to see the paths you’ve taken in the journey of life and what you’re learnt from your ups and downs :)

  6. I love this idea! I’d like to have a go myself. Sometimes it’s good to reflect on what we’ve been through to remind us of how strong we are. :)

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